Life Without Drama–Finding My “Happy”
It’s amazing how sweet life can be when you choose to leave the drama behind. It was my mantra for 2012 to find happiness in every day and I’ve been rewarded so much already.
When something good comes my way, I have tried hard to stop and celebrate the sweetness of it.
That’s because for a very long time I had a hard time seeing the happy. It seemed every where I turned there was more bad news around me. I’m not talking about on TV in the national media. I produce the national media. I know too well there’s more than enough bad stuff to fill 24 hour newscasts every day.
I’m talking about personal things. Losing loved ones. Money problems. Relationship issues. Worrying about work. Worrying about the kids.
And it wasn’t just me. I felt dragged into everyone else’s drama, too.
Then someone sent me a picture that really hit home. It was simple enough.
A big circle with the word Drama and a big red slash through it.
No Drama.
Wow. I don’t know what clicked in me but something about that image was enough for me to know that’s the life I wanted. I made the choice to walk away from drama right then and there.
And I continue to decide each and every day to silence the drama when it starts.
It doesn’t mean there aren’t problems. Fights. Headaches.
I just choose to respond with the mentality that the drama is not worth it, so I won’t be sucked up into it.
I know that some people have to have a daily dose of drama. It’s their drug.
Not me. Not anymore.
And I love the life I’ve discovered.
I choose to look for my “happy”. When I’m in this happy place and someone brings their drama my direction, I make it clear they need to keep on walking. I refuse to let them “steal my happy”.
And when I look each day at what is ahead, or look back at what I’ve endured, I always seem to be able to find something positive. It’s a choice. I embrace my happy.
Do you have too much drama in your life? Don’t you wish you could replace it with some “happy”?
What’s stopping you?
Nadia
January 29, 2012 @ 3:49 am
This? This is one of the reasons I love you so. Also… looks like we have the same mantra. Sometimes you have to go at greater lengths to make it happen.
Desiree
January 29, 2012 @ 3:51 am
Aw…right back at ya’ my friend. 🙂
Amy @ Render Me Mama
January 29, 2012 @ 6:35 am
You just described my life right now. My only resolution to myself this year was to be furiously happy. No more drama, no more letting others drag me down. Its time for me to get more comfortable with ME even if it means making new friends. I did some cutting loose some of the drama seekers in my life early on in 2012 and I am SO much happier! Its crazy how much those people hold us back and keep us in a funk. Its too stressful!
Good luck to you!
Desiree
January 29, 2012 @ 2:05 pm
Go Amy! Cutting loose of the drama seekers can be the hardest part…I know some who just won’t let go of it…my response each time is “don’t steal my happy”.
Lori Lavender Luz
January 29, 2012 @ 7:33 pm
Love this, Desiree. I, too, aim to live a life with very little avoidable drama.
I run Perfect Moment Mondays once a month so that people will become more aware of the little “good” dramas that are always happening, that become perfect must by being noticed. When I set my mind to it, I can find them even during hard times, like my MIL’s death last year.
Thank you for this post.
Jenny Lin
February 3, 2012 @ 1:23 am
Love this, Desiree! A lot of drama I encounter just makes me laugh (I think of much of life as a sitcom) if I don’t need to be involved, but you have inspired me to stay more away from it and focus on the happy.
jenny - Sugar Loco
February 5, 2012 @ 8:23 pm
No Drama, Mama. I’m with you on that. *high five*
Ratna
February 5, 2012 @ 8:54 pm
Oooh I so so love this post and so want to implement this- sadly, it sometimes finds me and how I choose to deal with it is what can define me…. THANKS FOR THIS!