Affairs, according to a recent survey, could actually be keeping marriages together.
Yeah, it has me shaking my head, too. But hear it out.
The survey, released by an infidelity website, says after summer holidays both cheating men and women are ready for a break from their marriages, but the break won’t include divorce. 46% of the cheaters surveyed said they planned to make more use of an infidelity website after summer issues within the marriage. But they went on to say they weren’t planning to actually leave their spouse (it doesn’t say what will happen once the spouse realizes they’re being betrayed).
Apparently the summer months are hard on marriages. In fact, a new survey by Stowe Family Law reveals that family law attorneys see a spike each year in inquiries about divorce and separation after the summer holidays. In this case, too much time together makes the heart grow fonder–for another.
The information for this article came from “one of the world’s leading discreet social networks for men and women seeking a secret affair”. I’m not naming it because I don’t think it should be promoted. And honestly, it doesn’t need promotion, with the site currently surpassing 3 million members worldwide in more than 21 countries.
I know we all want to be loved and feel loved, but an affair to save the marriage?
That’s a tough one to digest.
I suppose it’s possible. But the problem becomes whether that betrayal can ever truly be overcome. Is it possible to trust again? Assuming they even want to try.
Or are these cheaters playing a game of russian roulette, so to speak, assuming their spouse will never know?
Let me tell you something, folks.
They’ll find out. They may not let on that they know, but they know.
In fact, maybe they’re enjoying a little something on the side, too.
Fair is fair, right?
All for the sake of keeping that ‘marriage’ together.
If, somehow, an affair does keep the marriage together, and the couple can rekindle their passion and love grows because of it, I suppose that’s a good thing. Sure, they’ll have to get over the blame game, but we all know cheaters are created out of unhappy situations. Assuming the married couple can create happiness again, there’s every reason to try.
I do find it ironic that the study doesn’t look at what becomes of the third person involved. Guess that makes sense, too. After all, they were simply a token in the triangle, used to ultimately strengthen the real relationship that mattered, whether it was intentional or not.
We’ll just call that karma.